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You’ve found your passion, finished all the planning, found some office space, and now you’re ready to start your business! Hooray for you! Starting a new business can be scary. Starting a business in a stagnant economy, when you have a home and a family to support, can be downright terrifying. So, how do you balance home and family when you’re starting a new business or job, especially in a down economy? I’m glad you asked! In order to make a smooth transition into a new business or new job you must prioritize your tasks, set realistic goals, and get some help when you need it!


You need to create your marketing materials, prepare a presentation, open a Business Checking account, clean out the garage, put your daughter’s bike together, and plan a date with your partner this Saturday. It’s already Tuesday, and all this has to be done this week! What do you do? Prioritize you tasks! Of your business tasks, which ones will produce clients or income? Do those first. Of you home tasks, which ones require your presence and/or participation and are date or time sensitive? Do those first. With a new job or business, learning to prioritize is critical. It’s so easy to get caught up in tasks that don’t produce additional income and pull your attention away from your family. Be diligent about your time and plan to use it carefully. Try this exercise. List the 10 most important things to you. Then ask yourself how much time each week you spend doing those things. If you don’t spend your time on the things that are important to you, changes must be made!


Starting a new business or job during a down economy will take a substantial amount of time and effort. Therefore, it’s important to set realistic goals. First, sit down with your mate and discuss the finances for the home and prepare for the possibility that you won’t make ANY money from your new business for the first six to twelve months. After your mate calms down, let them know you’re prepared to supplement the missing income with your savings and your part-time (or full-time) job. That’s right—plan to work while you start your new business. The additional income from your job will sustain you through the growth years of your business allowing you to build your clientele at a comfortable pace and not have the additional stress and of having to meet the bills.

If you’re starting a new job, the stress of transitioning into a new place with new co-workers and a new environment can put a strain on your home life. Ask your partner to be patient with you for the first six months, and allow you to slack off on your home life and chores until you’ve adjusted to the new routine. Be realistic—it takes time and patience to adjust to change.


Whether you’re starting a new business or a new job, the new responsibilities and stress of change can be overwhelming. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help. Many of us are so conditioned to the “old way” of thinking we can do it all and be everything to everybody. We work a full eight hours, come home to cook, wash clothes, dust, vacuum, clean the bathroom, serve the food, clean the kitchen, help the kids with their homework, iron clothes, pay the bills, bathe the kids and yourself, and then collapse in bed. No wonder you’re tired, ornery, and sickly all the time! Let your pride go, and get some help! There are people who cook and clean just as good, or better than you, and they need jobs. Hire a person to clean for you once or twice a week. Find a good afterschool program to help your children with their homework. Take your clothes to be laundered. Teach your older children to prepare dinner. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help! It may cost a little more, but it’s worth having peace of mind, and a little time to rest each day. Your health and peace of mind is far more important than your pride. Humble yourself and ask for help.

Starting a new business or job can be very stressful. Yes it’s exciting, but definitely can put a strain on your family. Manage the change by taking steps and planning ahead of time to have balance in your life. Be diligent about giving your attention to the things and people that matter most to you. What good does it do to work and get all the money, power, and success in the world and lose your health, family, friends and peace of mind? Find balance in your life.

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